Birthdays come around every year whether we want them to or not, and when you hit 25 they gradually start to bring you more and more pressure, a few more passing comments, ‘oh you are half way to 50’…’when are you going to settle down’. At 26, you’re closer to the big 3-0 than 20. Then roll on 27 and your 20s are looking more like a thing of the past. Laura had always quite liked the thought of being 26 years old. "Looking back, I remember being a wide eyed, worldly inexperienced 6-year-old and realising that, one day way off not so distant future, I would become 26 on the 26th July and I found this idea quite novel. I somehow knew back then that being 26 would rock and boy 6-year-old Laura wasn’t wrong." But now moving from 27 to 28 she is reflecting on yet another glorious year on this planet.
Amy turned 29 in May and has had a recent shift in her way if thinking about the dreaded 3-0…
‘Entering the last year of my 20's was an odd feeling, I felt like this was my last year to be young, to make mistakes and at 30 I should have my life together. Well this certainly isn't the case, purely just societies expectations making me feel this way. 20's, 30's, 40's...we are continuously learning and growing throughout life and there is no magic number that makes you an 'adult', no perfect moment where you sit there and think 'I'm here, everything is perfect and my life is complete'. Let’s face it, that would be boring, because then what would we do with ourselves. I am more excited than ever to turn 30, to get there and realise that when I wake up on my birthday I won't feel instantly different, or older, or incomplete, not having achieved the things I 'should have'. I will wake up, be grateful for another year and pour myself a large mimosa.
At the end of each calendar year we all tend to take the time to reflect, promise ourselves we will drop 5lbs, sign up for a gym membership we will stop using by February, NEVER DRINK AGAIN (until next time). We both like to do the same kind of thing each birthday. We feel like birthdays are a far more personal time to reflect on the past year, be grateful for what you have achieved and for the people in your lives. We like to set some goals and think about what our next year on this planet might look like.
Amy: My biggest life lesson this year would be learning the power of getting uncomfortable and leaning into uncertainty. I tend to need to know every little detail, ask anyone who knows me, I LOVE asking questions and digging deeper so I can fully understand things. In some respects, this is great, but when it comes to the big plan of 'life' there are too many unknowns. This initially didn't sit well with me, I needed to know where I would be, what I would be doing and when I would feel complete. I learnt very quickly that this doesn't exist, and instead of trying to find certainty in everything and everyone, I leant into uncertainty. It was unbelievably uncomfortable to let go, and I still have to teach myself everyday and remind myself that sometimes it's ok not to know how things will pan out, and that isn't a negative things, it is simply the beauty of life.
Laura: My biggest learning this year is that resting is just as an important part of the process (if not more important) as pushing forward and getting shit done. I started taking more time to listen to what my body was telling me and I hardly get ill now! I used to be one of those people who had tonsillitis every single month, sometimes multiple times. Now, I take days off when I feel I need to and it sets me up to be able to create my best work on the days when I feel good. You may think that means less work gets done but I have actually found the opposite! Warning: Its super important to find the balance and to know when you need to rest and when you are just procrastinating.
My goal for the next year is to help as many people as possible to achieve their own goals and to have massive impact on the lives of 30 people. I truly believe that having measurable goals is the way to achieve them. By saying 30 this gives me a number to work towards. And I can celebrate my wins along the way. This is something you might what to think about when goal setting.
A slice of Gratitude…
This year we feel so much gratitude. Gratitude for the opportunities that have arisen, the people we have met and the deep connections we have made.
We have met some wonderful beings and are grateful for everyone who has inspired us and helped us grow over the last 12 months.
We encourage you, no matter your age, to reflect on the past 12 months and make a list of everything you have achieved. Can’t think of anything; did you get a new job, a raise, keep your kids alive for another year, learn to bake a cake? It can be as big or as small as you like. Just start writing down all of your accomplishments may surprise you. It also feels pretty good to look at the list once you’re done.
Now you’ve reflected on your many achievements, think about the life you want to create for yourself in the coming 12 months and what steps can you take today to make it happen? Do you need to make more time to practice self care so you have the energy to do all the wonderful things you want to do? Take that next step right now. Want to learn how to drive? Research local instructors and get some prices. Want to travel? Open a separate savings account and look into where you want to go. Whatever your big goal is take a small step towards it right now. What are you waiting for?
Age is just a number and birthdays are going to come around no matter what so stop worrying about the things you can’t control and start living your life now.
It's the year 2020, the year that will go down in history as the world came to a stand still. Everyone was blessed with the time and space to pause (terrifying right?) and we realised a large chunk of our lives were being lived based on other people’s expectations of us. Just sat under a cloud of ‘should’s’- buying houses, getting married, having babies, you name it, we should have been doing it. After some long conversations, we (Amy and Laura) realised, we, and so many women alike, were bloody exhausted of living life this way!
We put our heads together to create something wonderful during the Covid-19 pandemic, not only a place to channel our own energy during the long lockdown days, but with the question in mind ‘Who can we help out of the other side?’. We have both taken the time to dive deeper within ourselves and have over come so much during this turbulent time, and before for that matter, teaching ourselves every day tools that we practice daily to make life a little less stressful. We are constantly working towards being the best versions of ourselves (Disclaimer: this is something we practice every single day, and we don’t always get it right). What you will start to see is that this is a one day at a time approach, small changes that we can all make to our daily routines that add up to a new found ownership over your own life.
When we first started creating, we asked each other
‘What do we have that we can give to others?’
It was quite simply, our mistakes.
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